Dance and music are expressive arts. People who dance or play music professionally are often very in touch with their emotions. Men are encouraged not to give in to their emotions. So, it’s not at all surprising that most men don’t like to dance or simply feel uncomfortable trying. And just to be clear, we’re not including that side-step shuffle you do under our definition of dancing. We’re talking about men who salsa, tango, swing dance, or otherwise make a noticeable effort on the dance floor.
What these men are showing everyone else in the room is that they are secure in their masculinities, that they know how to channel emotion and energy, and they know how to move their bodies with skill and precision... all qualities that are desirable in a sexual partner. Dancing is a great intro to intimacy and can help you burn calories and significantly improve the mood. All of a sudden, those guys you make fun of for dancing don’t seem so foolish, now do they? Worry not. It’s never too late to jump on the bandwagon.
Find a girl friend with dance skills and ask her to teach you what she knows. She may also be your perfect companion for a dance class – many of which are becoming fun social outings. If class is too much of a commitment in your busy schedule look around and you’ll see tapas bars and Spanish restaurants offering dinner/dance/drink combos (these are also great date destinations). Dance halls (like, yes, Arthur Murray) are offering happy hour hors d’oeuvres and wine for clients who purchase a series of classes. And, bars and clubs frequently do weeknight theme nights with dance instruction. So go and try a few events, knowing you’ll be surrounded by other amateurs with no judgment. Then, take your moves mainstream and watch how quickly the spotlight shifts to you.