Finding the right girl can sometimes be a challenge in today’s modern world as you attempt to look for someone that is perfect for you among the 7 billion people on Earth. Modern technology such as texting, email, video chats, social media and more allow you to better reach a larger pool of women, but it doesn’t help you sift through that pool of women to find the right girl for you. To do that you have to know how to pick among the many choices available to you to find the “diamonds in the rough” that are the right fit you your wants, needs and desires.
Tip #1: Be Satisfied with Who You Are
The first step to finding the right girl is being happy with who you are first. No one wants to be with a person who is constantly putting themselves down or who is always insecure about who they are; it is a recipe for disaster and most people know this. So before you seriously begin looking for someone to spend your life with find satisfaction with who you are, what you want and then start looking for someone to love who loves you in return.
Tip #2: Figure Out What Makes You Tick and What You Need
Finding the right person for you isn’t just about finding someone who looks hot, it is about finding someone who you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with. To do that you have to first figure out what makes you tick; what are you goals for the future, what are your needs right now, what do you need from a girlfriend/wife? Taking the time to answer these questions allows you to get to the heart of who you see yourself with and why.
Tip #3: Don’t Settle
All too often people, both men and women, settle rather than waiting to find the right person for them. This ends up causing a world of problems as they find out that the differences between goals, needs and desires are too great to overcome. That is why it is important to not settle, but to strive to find the person that compliments who you are, who you want to be and what you want to be together. Settling can also create hostility and tension when it becomes obviously that you aren’t happy with certain things about them, but have chosen to “take what you can get”.
Tip #4: Look in the Right Places
When you think of meeting a girl, where do you think of going? The local bar or a nightclub, right? Well, this may not be the right place to look for a woman who is the right choice for you. Sure, you are bound to find many women who are beautiful, successful and willing to give you the time of day, but do they have the same goals as you… mainly, are they looking for a permanent relationship? Bars and nightclubs for the most part are made up of men and women who are looking for a good time… and not much else. Instead, focus your efforts on other places such as work, at charity/volunteering organizations, libraries, coffee shops, etc. This allows you to start off without the immediate prospect of sex which can muddle the waters and detract from the long term goal.
Tip #5: Don’t be Desperate
Desperation is never an appealing quality and should be avoided as much as possible. People can spot it fairly easily, so being desperate will actually reduce your chances of finding the right girl rather than help you. Find happiness in being single by looking at the brighter side of it all such as having the time to spend with friends whenever you what, not having to worry about the happiness of another person, being free to go where you want and do what you want. Finding the right girl is something that can take years, so be prepared and willing to wait for that person to come along.