Marriage isn’t always a barrel of sunshine no matter what they say, but it can be worth it to spend your life with someone who loves you completely and who you love in return. That said, marriage takes an effort to work and if you don’t put that effort into your marriage you might find a set of divorce papers waiting for your signature in the days ahead. To help save your marriage there are many things you can do, but take a look at some of the big ways you can make your marriage less about the “me” and more about the “us”.
Stop Trying to Get the Last Word In During a Fight
No marriage is safe from those dreaded knock-down drag-out fights that happen now and then, but you only make it worse when you are determined to get the last word in the fight. When you fight and try to get the last few words in you are taking a situation that is rife with tension and infusing a childish and selfish need to be heard the loudest above your spouse; instead you should be trying to work out the problem that started the fight in the first place and strengthening your marriage because of that problem resolution.
Say Some Truly Nice to Your Spouse Everyday
Sometimes a few simple and kind words to your spouse everyday can strengthen that connection between the two of you greatly. It doesn’t have to be done with flowers or over a fancy meal in a restaurant, it can simply be a “Honey, you look beautiful today” or a “I love the way you laugh; your smile just lights up the room.” A few words of love or praise can do wonders to make your spouse feel loved and appreciated in your life together.
Face a Problem in Your Marriage Instead of Ignoring It
One of the biggest problems coupes have today is ignoring the glaring problems that they face together and letting them fester until they become a serious strain on the marriage. Whether it is a lack of respect your contributions to the household or a case of overspending and stretching the monthly budget too much, face those problems head on and resolve them before they endanger the strength and stability of your marriage.
Make Time for Date Night
Whether you have been married for a year or 30 years, date nights allow you and your spouse to focus on each other rather than your kids, work, friends, etc. Making time to just be together helps to keep your bond with each other strong, ensuring that you don’t grow apart as you grow older. Once or twice a month turn off the cell phones, get a babysitter and go out for a night on the town together and get to know each other all over again; your marriage will be far better off by spending a little alone time together now and then