Some men can pick up the “honeys” like a bee, but for most men they have to work on it to get a woman’s attention. When this happens there are a few age old ways to get a woman’s attention and keep it, but the most important advice to give you is to be honest and be yourself. No woman wants a poser, so be yourself and follow these simple steps and you’ll be on your way to a second date in no time.
Step #1: Get Her Attention
Some men have those cheesy lines like “Did it hurt when you fell from heaven… cause you’re an angel!” Don’t go down that road. It will probably get you nothing but an awkward laugh and a view of her back as she walks away. So stop trying to think up the best pickup line ever and just be yourself and say hello. Start the conversation off interesting such as you noticed her smile and just had to meet her. Make it about her without coming off as a cheesy lothario looking to rock her world.
Step #2: Keep the Conversation Going
Meeting someone new can be awkward at times so it is important that you keep the conversation going to keep her attention. If you can’t think of anything to add to the previous conversation start up a new one based upon something you’ve done recently or based upon an observation about her personality or appearance.
Step #3: The Hook
Find a way to show her that you’re not just some average guy; rather that you have layers that can keep her entertained and engaged for a long time to come. One of the best ways to do this is to get her laughing. Be funny, charismatic and charming without edging into that lothario mode we talked about earlier.
Step #4: Find an Intimate Place to Continue the Conversation
Once you’ve hooked her, find an out of the way spot to make the conversation more intimate. This is especially important if you are in a loud, overly crowded place like a bar or club. A good place is a coffee shop or restaurant where the mood is right and she is focused solely on you. Being able to have a quiet conversation amongst the two of you will help build that connection you’ll need to ensure more time with her in the future.
Step #5: Invite her Back to Your Place
At this point you’ve got her interest, so you’ll both want to probably take it to a further step whether this includes getting intimate or not. Ask her back to your place for a drink or a movie, but don’t expect anything she’s not ready to give. Don’t be pushy and don’t be a jerk, let her figure out if she wants to take it further. Once this happens and you’re cuddled up on a couch watching a movie, things just might progress a bit further when she’s not feeling pressured anymore.