So you and your girlfriend have been a couple for a while now and you are considering moving in together. Possibly you have some friends who live with their girlfriends and everything seems to be going okay for them. There may be some other couple you know that have moved in together only to have everything become a disaster and you are certain, perhaps, that your relationship is different. The decision to move in together is a big deal for couples and it can make or break a romantic involvement. So, is moving in with your girlfriend a good idea? Here are some things for you to consider.
The first thing you need to realize is that your choice must have nothing to do with how excited she is about the idea. That may sound selfish, but it is really not. Your future is at stake as much as hers and if you two are really meant to be together then her success is important to you and your success is important to her. You have to first think about how this might affect your goals for the future. If you are already well established in life, then this might not be so much of a problem. If you are well established but she is not that is something for you to consider. If moving in might hinder goal accomplishment for either one of you, then it might be a good idea to wait.
The in-laws are definitely a factor. The Romeo and Juliet attitude of parental defiance is no longer in style; especially if either of you are close to family. Moving in might mean that tension-causing family members who happen to frequent the house get more opportunities to voice their negative opinions and cause drama.
Of course, you really cannot approach the decision of rather or not to move in with your girlfriend without considering how things are between the both of you. This means really seeking to understand why moving in with her might be important to you. Think about why you are even considering this and list the pros and cons. What are the benefits? It just might be that marriage is the step you are really looking for. If you decide that you want to do this because you are ready to be with only her and feel that she is the one for you, then propose. Some men try moving in with their girlfriends just because they are too shy to ask her to marry them.
The most important part of making this decision is to explore the worst-case scenario and see how you feel about the most negative thing that might happen. Would it be something that you both are able to withstand? In the end, moving in with your girlfriend might be the right way to go for you both, but it is important to do some brainstorming first and make the decision from a logical perspective.