Adult movies often get a bad rap... usually from people with moral objections, sometimes from partners in a relationship with self-esteem issues, and even with health-care providers and law enforcement agencies because of the unregulated nature of the business. But can it really be detrimental to your sex life? The answer is yes, if pursued to excess.
The ready availability of pornography of all types makes viewers prone to overload, or as some experts call it, Sexual Attention Deficit Disorder. Over time, viewers become more engaged by the fantasy world of pornography and less aroused by actual physical relationships with other people. Some viewers start to prefer the instant gratification and the lack of social interaction it requires. The assumption is that when the right relationship opportunity comes along, the preference will be easy to switch back to the real world. However, with alarming frequency, this is not the case. Men in particular find it hard to maintain arousal in the face of real-world situations although women also struggle to keep realistic expectations of male performance compared to actors in pornographic films.
Does that mean throw out your collection before it ruins you? No, of course not... Just understand the function of pornography in a healthy sex life. There’s nothing wrong with self-satisfaction, just don’t let it become the substitute for real human interaction. Or, consider sharing your love of adult films with your partner as part of foreplay. You might be surprised at how it can really ramp up the mood. You may even want to invest in a few flicks that is more geared towards women and couples to really raise her eyebrows. If you’re ashamed to pop in one of your movies, take that as a warning sign. Just like drugs and alcohol, pornography can be addictive, and one of the first indicators of addiction is feelings of shame or embarrassment.